Pondering the Principles of Proverbs
Maybe that line helped me ward off the pain, but I doubt it.
The healing that was necessary as an adult was long and arduous.
They can hurt or they can heal. They can help or they can hinder.
The Book of Proverbs has much to say about the things we say and how we say them, and this particular thought will be revisited more than once as we go through this book.
Yet, there are those who have said that words have no meaning--except for the meaning that you give them.
Philosophically, I understand the truth of that statement; but it is extremely limited in its scope.
Without words having meaning, we have very limited means of communicating. (But, that thought is not the purpose of this article.)
Pro. 12:18--There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing. (ESV)
The word translated "rash" means "to speak thoughtlessly."
Do we take time to consider the words that are flowing from our mind out our mouth? I think not.
I have often offended someone by a thoughtless phrase or word. Sometimes It is only the filter through which they were listening, and there is nothing I can do about that. However, there are times when I could have given just a little consideration to what I was saying, or the tone of voice I was using, and things would have turned out differently.
Whenever you are upset for any reason--anger, physical pain, disappointment, etc.--if you do not take control of your emotion, you will most likely "snap" at any question or comment that comes your way. Even if from the most loved person in your life. And even if that one has absolutely nothing to do with your current upset.
The loved one is wounded.
With a sword thrust.
How many of those must they bear? How many can they bear?
Do you really want to find out?
Yes. I know the current thinking. "Don't take it personally."
That just comes across as so much trying to shift the blame.
Guard your speech.
I've seen many a relationship--my own included--hurt, broken and eventually destroyed all because one party wouldn't own up to the reality of their words.
Thoughtless babbling, mindless speaking is a recipe for disaster.
Someone will get hurt.
It takes time for physical wounds to heal.
Emotional wounds caused by the words of a loved one may never heal.
Make sure--because it IS your responsibility--that your words are wise words that bring healing.
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